Random Acts of Kindness

Happiness. Success. Do they go hand in hand? If you are successful, will you be happy? The answer is NO! It’s the other way around, happiness creates success. So then you ask the question, how can I become happier? Well maybe it’s time to start creating happy habits. I’ve been reading an amazing business self-help book titled The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson. He talks a lot about success and how it’s relative to being happy.

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Today I want to focus on kindness. Now this is a hot topic lately, especially if you have children. We all like to imagine the world in a time where people are just a little kinder and a little less selfish.

So as Olson recommends, commit to doing a random act of kindness today (and hopefully every day this year), but for now, start with today. Doing something kind for somebody else each day will most definitely add another layer of happiness to your life.

Doing something kind doesn’t have to be complicated, you could take two minutes to send an email or a text to somebody you know praising them or thanking them for something they did. You could hold open doors all day long, you could call a friend and offer to bring over coffee or a meal. Use Amazon Smile to donate a percentage of your purchase to an organization in need. Celebrate a teacher at school. Give somebody flowers today.

For example, after I wrote this I walked in the garbage and recycling cans for two of my neighbors, let people skip me in line all day, and held the doors open for others every time I went though one. It’s-the-little-things-people.

The ideas are endless and don’t need to be complicated or even thought out. if you really try to do a random act of kindness each day you will in fact be spreading happiness! Just imagine if we all did this and really meant it.

So that’s what I leave you with today. Make yourself happy by spreading happiness and let’s see where that leaves you a year from now. A lot happier I bet. If you follow me on Facebook, you can catch my Live videos every Tuesday at 1 p.m. CST. See you then!

Cherry cream cheese cookies

These are by far my favorite Christmas cookie. I tend to hoard them for no other reason other than I want them to myself. They don’t transport well anyways, with the gooey filling on top. These aren’t very sweet so if that’s what you prefer, you’ll be in Heaven.

A gooey cherry-cream cheese filling sits atop a buttery sugar cookie. They are delectable and I can never stop eating them. They are so good that Kevin has taken them on as “his” favorite Christmas cookie too. They stick together so you have to put wax paper in between layers and keep them chilled, but I’m telling you, you need to try these!
Directions:

1 C powder sugar

2 tsp. vanilla

1 C butter

2 C flour

1 egg

Mix and refrigerate for 1-2 hours.

Heat oven to 350º. Form into 1” balls and place 2” apart on an ungreased cookie sheet. With your thumb, make an imprint in each cookie. Bake for 10 -12 min. and cool completely.

Filling:

1 C powder sugar

2 Tbl. flour

3 oz. cream cheese

1 tsp. vanilla

½ C coconut

½ C chopped red maraschino cherries

Glaze:

¼ C semi-sweet chips

3 – 4 tsp water

1 Tbl. Butter

¼ C powder sugar

In saucepan over low heat, mix chips and butter. Remove from heat and add sugar and water to make glaze. Drizzle over filled cookies. Refrigerate between wax paper.

I really hope you make these. Enjoy!!

Braces: 6 months

Can you believe it’s been almost 6 months with braces? I’ve certainly had the up and down journey. Half a year into this and I’m mostly confident in them. The only time I doubt myself is if I’m at a new party or event and I’m meeting people I don’t know and flash a face full of metal— I still smile but inside I doubt just a little.

The great news is I’m almost done! This past visit the orthodontist has started doing detail bends in the wires to address just certain teeth. My mouth was sore again but that’s how I know it’s working. Once this process is complete I’ll get a retainer to sleep in at night. I can still feel myself clenching and know it probably won’t ever cease. Perhaps in February I’ll get these off??

Stronger, Smarter, and Faster Skincare

This past weekend I was in Texas hill country to celebrate the launch of three new products with the skincare brand I work with. It was incredible to see these innovations hit the market. We are truly moving the skincare industry forward.

template (1)The biggest new product was a twist on retinol. Our Intensive Renewing Serum is powered by Retinal, a next generation Vitamin A that is one step closer to prescription-level Vitamin A. With 20 times the potency of Retinol, Intensive Renewing Serum offers faster, more dramatic results starting as early as 4 weeks. It features R+F’s proprietary Retinal-MDTM Technology that is engineered with a Calcium buffer system to extend and control the release of the powerful ingredients to help reduce the potential for irritation. This unique delivery makes Intensive Renewing Serum compatible with all R+F Regimens and gentle enough for everyday use for nearly ever skin type.

The weekend was focused on our team and learning from each other, they different ways we do business and interact with our customers. It’s great when I get the chance to really listen to what other women are doing, it’s empowering! We all work so hard and in today’s world, everything feels like a competition. But even though we are all technically competing for sales, we still have the ability to step back and support one another. I love working with all these women each day. It was a super work-cation.

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I earned a free night out for working so hard. We had dinner at a lovely steak house in Boerne, TX called Peggy’s On The Green. My dinner was delicious and I had the chance to try some local favorites. I highly suggest this place if you are in the area!

Mommies, it’s ok to ask for help.

I was running with another mom the other morning and we got to talking about our day-to-day lives but more importantly how hard life can be when a spouse is gone for an extended period of time. A few times now I’ve told her to reach out and ask for help, that I would be willing to bring a meal or watch her kids for a an hour or so in hopes of visiting the grocery store alone. She brushed it off and then admitted that it’s hard to ask for help. I totally agree!!

The other day she was at a park with some other mom friends and they were all enjoying the freedom you get when all your kids aren’t eating woodchips and can climb up the slide stairs themselves. But my friend noticed another mother struggling with a few kids at hand, tantrums, woodchips, crying… we’ve ALL been there. She offered to lend a hand and asked if she wanted to join their “group.” The struggling mom said YES. Yes! She acknowledged that it was a bad day and took some assistance.

people-2567915_1280We have all failed on the parenting scale at one time or another. None of us are perfect! What’s hard is that social medial and the collective world tell us that we should be perfect parents. PBJ on gluten free bread, no corn syrup or processed sugars, white couches, spotless floors, color coordinated baskets for each type of toy and child…the list goes on. Well guess what, that life you admire on Instagram, it’s F-A-K-E. Have you ever seen the “big” photo of the stylized photo? That ought to make you feel better. Not a single one of us has our shit together and you don’t have to either.

The next time you feel you are failing the entire day, pick up your phone and ask for help. This is where a stellar network of mom friends comes in. Don’t have any? It’s time to make some! Mom friends are the glue of the world, they help hold you and your shit together. I know I can count on my friends to jump in at a second’s notice if I desperately need something. Asking for help isn’t easy, I can admit that, but it’s gotten easier over the years.

Ever hear the term it takes a village? Of course you have. You’ve heard it because it’s true. Long ago it DID take a village to raise a family and children. Just because we live in single-family homes does not mean we have to do it alone!

Two takeaways:

  1. Don’t forget to ASK for help. Just do it, you’ll feel so much better. Most mothers have been in your shoes and are more than willing to help out in any way.
  2. Offer to help whenever you can. If you see somebody struggling with even a minor task or notice that a person in your community is having a shitty day (thanks social media), just reach out and ask if you can help. Or even ask how they are doing.

We are in this together. It takes a village.